How often must I be with my mate?

In most relationships there’s not much time for lovers to cuddle up and have a good ole’ passionate sweet time together.

Sometimes it seems that the relationship is too settled. One might think that this is the point where it gets easy but Reader this is the point where one needs to be on your guard and conscious.

Most often when things get to this cool content stage most people just let go of all the efforts they used to make to make their relationship more alive and fun.

Sex and passion being one of the main things that holds a relationship together takes a backseat to other things that could be done at later dates.

Reader this shouldn’t be the case but it appears to be so. In a brief research it was divulged to me that most people only have time for their partners over the weekend usually Sundays. How cold is that!

Don’t get me wrong I understand that bread’s got to be made but to be in a relationship one’s got to have thought about all this. True, some situations can not be avoided but really one cannot afford to let his relationship suffer.

For some people though it’s not about time. They simply don’t understand how important such a time spent is. A friend of mine always complains that her boyfriend is unromantic. Unfortunately not all people are cut out for ‘lovey dovey’ stuff and no matter how hard they may try to please their partner in that sense they may end up feeling uncomfortable and angry.

In such a situation there’s not much use in getting angry. Trying to understand the problem and not putting too much pressure on your partner may help a lot. A point to note is that relationships are about compromises. Being in a relationship the two partners have different habits and attitude towards certain things. Often they might disagree but they have to reach a point where they must agree or just compromise to keep the peace. Being in love with your partner; pleasing each other must please you too. “Through loving you I love me too” is a tenable way of putting it. 

Try to spend time with your partner. It doesn’t have to be all the time but the little things are what matters most.  It can be short and sweet during the week leading to anticipation for the weekend. A call or brief SMS message can make someone’s day.

BE BOLD ENOUGH TO LOVE

In life there are three types of people – good, bad, and ugly. The good ones you either hate or love deeply, the bad ones you either hate or love too and the ugly ones you just plain loathe and hate.

Even as humans we are all made up of different genetics that embodies our physical features hence different people. No two people can be the same, yes they may be similar but not totally the same.

Growing up, we inherit different backgrounds and different orientation that we mainly base our life styles on. In the 21^st century where there is a name for everything instead of making it easier for socialization it has actually become much harder with society, traditions and such. It may not be very blatant but the snobbery still exists.

In a country like Sierra Leone it would be suicidal for a young pretty rich lady’s reputation to be linked with a servant.

In relationships we try to find a partner that complements us but yet there’s a popular scientific rule ‘Opposite attracts’ that it seems now applies to relationships.

So many times we find ourselves falling for bad guys and rejecting the good ones.

Simply put, as humans, we all relish challenges. What they say we can’t have we will have no matter the cost, is the kind of attitude that is common in these situations.

Some people are naturally bleeding hearts and have compassion for almost everything. They disregard society and culture to save their kind heart and though this is very sweet pity is not man’s best friend at all times. For others it’s simply about experience. Most cocooned in their webs of luxury have dreams of meeting a bad boy that’s always stoned,  lives each day a dollar gives wicked parties and don’t care about society or the world.

As curiosity being one of the traits of humans it’s only natural that one feels the urge to visit the other side of life. People like these who are very shallow minded I must say have their few moments of fun realize that being branded or perceived as ‘the bad guy’  is not really all that dash back to their world of peace and tranquility.

Most important are the people who don’t let society guide them rather they build society by being true to themselves.

So many times we find ourselves in situations where we’d rather be someone else than what society brands us but out of fear of being rejected or hurting people’s feelings’ we let go of our desires and dreams to live lives of façade that will crash sooner or later.

People like these are open to the world and its inhabitants; they don’t care about color, race or kin.

Most times when people see couples that look very odd together they are confused and somewhat indifferent because they think ‘she’s too good for him or he’s a lost cause.’

I love people like these because they send out the signal that somebody cares enough.

So many stories like these happen and guess what Readers; most do have a happy ending. They are not much off worse than the ‘perfect’ relationships trust me. A little love can change someone’s life. Having the courage and honesty to be true to yourself could mean a world of better people and a world where love is not segregated but given shared to all.

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