For Old Times Sake
Presumably one is in quite a comfortable and healthy relationship. You have everything you ever dreamed of. Yet there’s one thing you feel you’re not getting, you feel that something is missing. You remember how it used to be with your ex-partner and relieve certain moments shared. Compared to your current relationship, that one was more exciting more passionate and alive. Living on those memories, doubts start creeping in making you wonder “What if…What if he/she is the one that got away?”
As soon as doubts and thoughts like these start creeping in, it leaves you open to vulnerability and (though rational) irrational actions that are bound to affect your relationship negatively or worse destroy it. Sure when you feel most vulnerable and sometimes drunk you start pining for a lost one but this is the honest truth. Reader there is no ‘for old times’ sake.’
Why should there be? If the old days were so good one would still be having them not wishing and crying over them!
When things seem dull in your relationship one is bound to start wishing and wanting more and who is better to have it with than your ex who could really get you going without you asking? Sure he/she might get you going but for how long? You might get a great sex time or a fantastic time together-so hey why did you leave?
After a great passion shared what else is there? You can’t tear at each others clothes every second for ever.
Think about the things that led to the fall of your ‘passionate’ relationship. Are you willing to put up with those things that you could not suffer before? Often when we think that relationships like these could work out better second time around, we don’t really dwell on the negative side of things and if even we do, we treat them as minor issues that are not important
After a spate of this passionate albeit very short re-encounter you are left floundering in guilt, shame and self-loathing and you run back to your safe loving relationship.
You run back to your stable and reliable relationship and cling to it like there’s no tomorrow. You make up in so many ways to cover your deceit and put extra force into the relationship. Unfortunately sometimes no matter how hard one tries you can’t rush some things and too much pressure could put a strain on the relationship. In a progressive healthy relationship, progress and achievement comes slowly one day at a time. Try to rush things and you could have a whole load of problems and strains to look forward to Dear Reader.
You might be lucky that your partner doesn’t notice that something has gone amiss or you must be a very good actor or actress. But like those sweet memories that lured you in the first place memories of your infidelity are bound to haunt you.
Unfortunately if you’re not, that opens a whole barrel of conflicting emotions and arguments and disappointments that could severe your relationship. In the blink of an eye you could lose all you’ve worked hard for. You could be left with nothing or if bold and desperate enough you could go back to your ex prepared to even accept worse treatment seeing that you made yourself easier for him to use. That is worse than nothing.
A relationship can never be expected to be perfect but it could be quite good. There comes a time in its life when it seems dormant and still but patience and love revives it making it more solid and unbreakable.
Overcoming certain hurdles in your relationship is not easy but determination never fails. Don’t just complain or talk the talk, act and walk the walk Dear Reader or you will be back to square one. You can’t be there for the rest of your life. For old times’ sake make your relationship work. Don’t let the hurts of your past repeat itself; try to be the best you can be for old times’ sake. Don’t give up for old times’ sake for if you do, Dear Reader, your whole life would be in the past- for “old times’ sake”.
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