Hit Me, Beat Me
There’s a very thin line between love and hate. Issues like these are always on the surface of extremely passionate relationships and more often than not violence is one of the key links that bond the change. Why do our loved ones abuse us by hitting us?
For most people it’s all about power. Abusing a partner in a relationship in a way strengthens the attacker and cowers the victim into submissiveness and dominance.
A sure way of not only disrespecting your relationship but also stomping on the rights of a fellow human it serves as no positive way to gain or maintain a relationship.
In a century where women who are mostly subjected to abuse than men are much conscious of their rights and are actually taking the lead in development and growth, it comes as a shock to know that thousands are in abusive relationships.
For most it’s a signal of desperateness. Given the low ratio of men and with most confirming to bachelorhood, most women are afraid of not securing a man of being left on the shelf. To avoid this ‘curse’ as best as possible they try to survive whatever conditions they may encounter in a relationship. They go through the wringer to get a man to commit to them. Most believe that when a man hits his partner he’s madly in love with her. What utter madness indeed!
Why would you want to hurt something you love and treasure?
Some people naturally are very temperamental and have mood swings faster than you can say ‘Hi’.
When things are not going so great with them they tend to unleash their frustration and anger on an unfortunate person. No excuses for this sort of behavior it’s simply not done.
When things are going awry for you the best person to talk to is your partner. Together you can make things work or bear the weather not inflict pain and suffering too on her which will greatly affect the relationship. Hitting her will not solve your problem you may feel release for a few moments but then much later you’ll feel like a heel.
Not wanting to put the blame on just men Reader you’ll be fascinated to know that some women do like being hit by their partner. I’m not kidding! Please hear me out.
A close associate of mine writes love letters to herself putting them in spots where her boyfriend can identify them. Then she provokes him and taunts him to hit her. She claims that after the fight or rather beating they have great sex and much closeness.
All I can say to this is that people like these must be stark raving mad! Give me chocolate any day darling!
Somehow it appears that there is a psychological error in understanding the difference between control and protectiveness and most people confuse emotions quickly.
Most times people in these situations refuse to acknowledge that they are being abused and try to ignore it perhaps hoping that it’ll stop or maybe was just a mistake.
You could never hit me and tell me it was a mistake. I call it a premeditated move of assault and darling by the time I’m through with you it will be a mistake!
Looking at icons that we all want to be like who’ve had very public domestic abusive relationships one wonders “Why she be keeping him?” Oh and it only gets worse. They actually move from one abusive relationship to another. (You say she’s your wife well she’s my girl the only problem is you don’t beat her right….) This is an extract from a song. A complex question to ask mainly because one may not understand the answer is “Why do they stay?”
Some reasons already given, another one to add to fully understand this ‘mistake’ is that most people are scared of change. It’s not easy breaking up from a relationship and entering into a new one. A proverb I would use to associate with this feeling is ‘the devil you know is better then the angel you don’t know.” True but how’s one to find one’s angel? Every single person has an angel so why duel with the devil when you can dance with an angel? True it’s really not easy to make changes but Dear Reader life is about changes. Some you may like others you may not, but it all depends on your strength and willpower to make things work.
Hit Me Beat Me is an article for all the beautiful ladies out there who are in abusive relationships domestic or otherwise. This is an article aimed at women who feel there’s no hope no way out.
My heart goes out to you all and trust me sisters it can’t be all bad. You can make it and there’s always someone who cares. No matter the gray skies you may be facing the sun will shine. Don’t be a victim.
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