For people to like you, change your Attitudinal Behavior for good

Many of us mistakenly believe that it’s wrong to think we have any good qualities in life. We may spend a lot of time berating ourselves for our negative qualities, thinking that self criticism is the key to improving our performance, no, it’s wrong. However, a constant focus on our supposed shortcomings can hinder our efforts to make new friends with other people even tough for us to quickly get organized, come 2012.

These are my few concerns. How can we have the confidence to make new friends if we think we don’t have much to offer? How can we believe that others can like us if we believe our inner being is flawed? Or if we think we are too boring to interest anyone else?

We may wonder what anyone else would see in us if we don’t see any good in ourselves. In order for others and the undecided to be attracted to our able political parties, those individuals must be able to easily see our best qualities.

If we focus on our good qualities, good moral behavior, stop the bickering, treat fellow political pundits with respect, I am confident that, we will have much more assurance that we have something of value to offer in a good relationship of any sort. If we all wish to be socially and politically successful, it’s important to accept the fact that not everybody is going to like us under all circumstances.

Comrades, not everyone is going to like the package you come in with to this political party, especially in first meeting with others. Every person has a unique pattern of likes and dislikes which were formed long before they met you. Don’t think you have to condemn yourself as a failure if it seems that someone else doesn’t like you because of ethnicity. If someone seems to dislike you, the reason for that dislike might have little or nothing to do with you. The person who doesn’t like you might be fearful, or shallow, or busy or shy. Perhaps you and that person are simply a mismatch for each other at this particular time.

Don’t take yourself out of the political ball game by deciding that your flaws and shortcomings are bigger than your assets. In fact, some of the very qualities you consider to be blunders may be irresistible to someone else. For all the factors that might cause one person to reject you, there are at least as many factors that will work in your favor with someone else. Just work on changing your behavioral attitude for the better.

Painstakingly, if you have an attitude problem, you decide to feel inferior within yourself because you’re nothing and you don’t have much money to drive a nice fancy car, and you can believe that this is the reason that you don’t have many friends in your life that like you. Instead, if you are very wealthy, you may be suspicious that everyone is after your money and that nobody really likes you as a person or than for your wealth.

Remember, if you keep on fixating on just about anything and believe it’s the reason you do not have friends and cannot make any for others to like you, well look into your behavioral attitude. Don’t just think in your mind about what your good qualities might be but try to actually make the effort to reinforce the strength of the ideas in your mind. Don’t be embarrassed to give yourself credit for your good points. If you don’t have any ideas as to what you’re good points might be, you might want to ask some of the people you know.  

Conclusively, try to compile your list of good qualities; be as generous in your praise as your best friend in the whole wide world.  If you don’t have any best friends yet, imagine in your mind a wise and loving friend who knows and truly appreciates you.  

When you are out there meeting friends, frequently remind yourself of all the wonderful qualities you have. It’s only a matter of time before you meet other people who will appreciate them too! A good behavioral attitude is to learn how to relax. Instead of berating yourself for some perceived shortcoming around you, concentrate on the good qualities you have to offer within your family or party members if at all you a patriot and a Sierra Leonean to the core. Realize that there is an audience who are going to look for those people who will appreciate them.

My fellow Sierra Leoneans, if you want your party leaders, your family and others to like you, it’s time to adjust and improve your behavioral attitude.  Support the political leaders of Sierra Leone and let’s move the ruling party and our country forward.  

By Or-Kurugba, Allentown, Pennsylvania, USA

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